My first open relationship was a disaster....

and, it changed everything for me....

I wanna tell a story about my first open relationship. I was about 22. 

I began dating a woman I had known in the lesbian scene of San Francisco. 

The year was 1994. 

For context about our political climate, Hilary Clinton was our first lady and would speak at my graduation the following year, 1995, saying she chose San Francisco State University as 1 of 3…